Yes, we have thought about adoption countless times. What makes us hesitate? The horror stories of adopted children turning bad or ungrateful.
Whenever I see or hear from the news of children being abandoned, maltreated or aborted, I couldn't help bu cry everytime. Here we are sacrificing a lot, spending a lot of money, and emotionally burdened just to have at least one child. Then you see people who do not treasure their children?
Why is this so?
Hubby and I have talked about it and we finally decided to attend the pre-adoption seminar. It was very enlightening and what really caught our attention was on why adopted children turn into a problematic child. One of the biggest factor was in handling the information that he/she is an adopted child. In most problematic cases, the child had no knowledge of his/her adoption and once they find out they somehow loose their identity. They start feeling unwanted and that they don't belong. The critical part is really telling the child as early as possible that he/she is adopted. That he/she was "wanted" by the adoptive family.
We found out that most of the time, Filipinos would want to adopt a girl rather than a boy because of "inheritance" issues.
After completing the seminar, we're suppose to submit several documents to start our adoption procedures. Here's the website for the details http://www.gov.ph/faqs/adoption.asp.
We're currently completing all the required documents....
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we thought of that too. perhaps hubby and i will talk about more seriously if there will be a third miscarriage (i hope not).
good luck. please keep us updated!
thanks ivy, we thought that regardless whether we'll have a biological child or not we felt that in this way we can also help those children in need.
hi! my baby brother is adopted and he has turned out to be a really nice boy...malambing, super bait and studies hard. He's a consistent honor student.
my parents adopted him because he was left at our doorstep by his mom.
thanks for sharing kikayc, all the more na nawawala fears namin of adopting:)
hi milky way! i still believe that nasa pagpapalaki yan, biological or adopted.
my brother knows he's adopted from the very start so hindi siya mabigla but my parents always told and assured him that they love him very much.
btw, I do want to adopt kaya lang ang hirap dito sa pilipinas. ang daming red tape.
yun din sinabi sa amin ng social worker, to tell the child as early as possible to avoid na maging problematic child.
agree, madaming red tape. it would actually take us 6-9 months din for the processing.
yung sister ng hubby ko is also adopted. pero she knows kung sino yung totoo niang mom. i agree at kikayc na depende talaga sa pagpapalaki yan. always paramdam lng talaga na loved sia. from the start alam talaga nia na adopted sia at never siang naging problema ng pamilya.
thanks ivy and kikayc for the encouraging words :)
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